The sun is bright, the flowers are blooming and the birds are chirping. It's spring again, and in between the sneezes and nose sniffles from all the pollen, love is somewhere in the air, and through the mix of all the couples lies the occasional single person. There are a few generalizations that come with being single: 1). you've recently had a break-up, 2). you're a player or 3). there is something wrong with you.
The older we grow, the more it seems as if being single is bad, there is always some negativity attached to it, and I don't understand why. Lately it seems as if I am having to defend my choice of being single, and I have to wonder, why is it so bad? People shouldn't have to explain the choice to be single and content with themselves.
Some people date purely for the rush of having someone they can call their own, others are truly in love with their soul mates and some are in horrible relationships that make them miserable but dread getting out of them for fear of being, dare I say it - "single."
Over time I feel that relationships have lost their meaning. Some don't take them as seriously as they are meant to be. Being in a relationship means you have an attraction to this person, you have taken the time to get to know her or him and you want your friendship to move to the next level. I believe the basis to all relationships is friendship. You shouldn't just jump into something with someone you met three weeks ago, are physically attracted to and whose last name you just found out. The key to a successful relationship is taking your time.
Being independent is crucial to survival these days. It's important to know how to live on your own without leaning on a partner. Independence in relationships also can help strengthen the bond between two people by giving a little freedom.
It's great to have a partner, to fall in love, and to start a life with someone else but you can't rush true love. Don't jump into something just because you want the pleasure of being with someone. Let love walk into your life surprisingly - it's the best way. Once you have it, embrace it.
Our society puts so much stress on us to go out and date everyone we meet, with millions of dating sites and flooding news of celebrity marriages and break-ups. Divorce rates are so high because people aren't realizing what a big deal marriage is; it is being taken lightly, when really, you should find someone you want truly to be with forever before taking a vow of marriage. Yes, things change and marriage is hard, but dating someone for a few months should not be a reason to hop on the next plane to Vegas and exchange vows.
It's okay to be single. You have to be content with yourself before you can find someone else. If you are single, enjoy it, take advantage of it, date around, find out what you like, soul search and find out who you are. Set goals for yourself and your life, and don't stress about love passing you by. It's only a matter of time before you will meet your match.
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